In alt.home.repair, on Mon, 16 Nov 2020 10:49:34 -0500,
hub...@ccanoemail.ca wrote:
>On Mon, 16 Nov 2020 10:20:14 -0500, micky <
NONONO...@fmguy.com>
>wrote:
>
>>What you have to understand is...
>>
>>It's really important for Americans to understand...
>>
>>Both of these common expressions are insulting.
>>
>
>
> I fail to understand what is insulting about either of
>those two turns-of-phrase.
> Whereas, saying that " you fail to understand "
>could be interpreted as mildly condescending,
Exactly. My phrases are insulting for the same reason. On a topic
that's been in the news for months, or other topics that people normally
learn about in their day to day life, suggesting someone still doesn't
understand when he's had so much opportunity to learn to understand.. is
insulting.
And I suspect very strongly that those who use those phrases don't get
results as positive as they would with other words.
Even if people don't complain, I think subliminally they resent it.